I need some parents' point of views, please. (mostly a rant)?

Facts: I'm only 17.





My boyfriend is 20.





My dad doesn't like the fact that my boyfriend has helped me sneak out like, once or twice. That's because my dad doesn't allow us to talk or see each other, at all.





Dad threatens that if he finds out I've been talking or seeing him, he'll call the cops on him.





My boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 months, we've not even come close to doing anything sexual. I'm still a virgin, and I told my boyfriend that I wasn't going to do anything sexual or anything of the sort until I was ready. He said that's completely fine, because he's the same way. So it's not like he's pressuring me into doing anything I don't want to.





I'm the type of teenager that hasn't, nor will, be pressured into anything. I know how to say ';no';, and I have. Many times. And I've lost friends because of it.





I've been around people a few years older than me my whole life because my brother is 4 years older than I. So I am a bit more mature than most 17 year old girls.








I just need to know, from parents, what would you do? Would you let your daughter at least talk to the boy she loves/likes? Wouldn't you at least try to get to know him?





The only contact my father has had with him is when they first met, he shook his head and introduced himself. Hasn't said a word to him since.





It's just killing me. And I don't want to hurt my father by moving out the day I graduate, because I plan on doing it. Not only to get away from him, but to show him that I can take care of myself. I'm not going to let anyone bring me down on where I want to go. I haven't yet, and I'm not going to start.





I don't care how much I care for someone, if they don't want to go along with my plans in life, then I'll leave them sitting on the curb.I need some parents' point of views, please. (mostly a rant)?
I think you best bet is to have a heart to heart talk with dad. The more he trys to keep you away from your bf the more you will move towards him. 3 yrs is not bad anyways. Your pretty set on what you want and what your gonna do so your only other option is to talk with your dad and assure him that your mature enough to be with this older guy and won't make the mistakes he thinks your going to make. Just let him know you love him and he has to trust in you.I need some parents' point of views, please. (mostly a rant)?
Having him help you to sneak out is a sure fired way to make your dad hate him. You have to earn his trust ask him if he can come to the house and sit in the tv room just watching tv and go from there
If your boyfriend really cared about you he wouldn'tt have helped you sneak out of the house he would be spending more time trying to get to know your dad and to let your dad know that he will take care of his baby (you) and make sure you're safe. By helping you sneak out makes him look immature and thus not trustworthy in your dads eyes
i agree with deb D you cant expect your dad to trust a man that help sneak you out. when young adults sneak around it seems like they are doing something that they should be. so, with that said. maybe sit down with your dad, and if your as mature as you say you are. you should not have a problem telling your dad for one that your sorry. second let him know that you are still a virgin, tell him that you really care about this guy and would like for him to get to know him better. you should also have your boyfriend say he is sorry, and he needs to assure your dad that he cares about you and that he would never do anything to hurt you. that's what mature people would do.
hi, i'm a mum and i.m 38 my two kids are aged 17 and 20 and i've struggled like hell on my own to bring them up the best way i could. right i can completely sympathise with you but i can see your dads point of view., being a parent ... we kind of seem to forget we were once young and will all too often come out with sayings that poss get rite on your nerves.,,, like '; in my day...... things were different etc etc..this is where i can see where your coming from. when i was young my dad was extremely strict and i too thought of ways to sneak out and things just like any other teenager, your dad is really upset that his little girl has suddenly become a woman and knowing that men or boys are attracted to young girls like yourself they go into irrational mode and start laying down the law. your dad is prob pretty concerned and doesnt want you gettin yourself into trouble too young in life and having babies too young. he would probably think your boyfriend was cool if he wasnt your bloke and the fact that this boy has deceived this man of worldly wisdom, and thinks he may signal trouble. you need to talk to your dad if your able to and explain how you feel. if you cant approach him then you just have to try and be patient and tell your dad you accept his rules but could you poss come to a comprimise , suggest that your boyfriend comes over and visits only when he is present and give him a chance to get to know this boy, i wish i'd have known then what i know now and that my pop was right all along about the way he brought me and my brother up but sometimes us olds go about things the wrong way, its only coz he cares and loves you so much that he worries so much, but in the meantime dont be sneaking around behind his back as all relationships need trust and honesty for them to be harmonious, and the friendship from our parents should be treasured,