i've always defended him even though i can tell my friends dont like him and many of our family friends have had issues with him too. but im starting to realise it now he really is a d*ckhead
hes so mean and angry about everyone. he hates:
-old people (by old i mean over the age of 25)
-women
-fat people
-gay people
-just everyone in general
and when i say hate its like an absolute passionate hatred. if ever my mum mentions anything about one of her friends he just laughs contemptuously saying somehting like ';ha dont talk to me about her. i dont deal with women over the age of 23';
at first it was like he was joking.. but it seems to be getting serious. like he actually cant stand anyone old (he himself is 56 mind you!!!)
he tries to listen to current music and wear trendy clothes but it just looks so stupid. hes also really sleazy with younger girls... whenever i have one a friend around who is a girl he acts all silly and flirty.
hes also openly mean to my mum and always swears at her.. when shes the only one who does anything in this house. and she pretends she doesnt care but i know it gets to her and makes her insecure all this talk about how any girl quote ';over 25 years and 55 kg'; isnt even worth looking at.
i dont know what to do... he is still my dad but i dont know how to reactI dont know what to do about my dad (long rant)?
You are 17 and your mum is the only one who does anything round the house? What is the matter with YOU giving her a hand? If you helped her and treated her with the respect she deserves your father might notice, but even if he doesn't at least you are doing the right thing. You need to show her a bit of solidarity. If your mother says something about one of her friends make a nice remark about the friend - if you enjoy her sense of humour or her cooking or her knowledge or wisdom say so right out. You know his values are skewed. Praise the good qualities you find in people and stress their importance. It will be a good contrast to his prejudices. And don't forget he is your father. You have to try to love and respect the man but not his views and silly behaviour. In fact if you know of anyone else who has any of his opinions etc you can criticise that person - for instance. ';I don't like to hear so and so ranting about fat people (or whatever). He just makes himself look silly and achieves nothing.'; You don't want world war 3 in your house so you have to subtly work for change! You can get your mother on side. She would probably appreciate being part of the campaign to turn your dad into a sensitive new age guy instead of a geriatric wanabe.I dont know what to do about my dad (long rant)?
Yes I believe your dad is a jerk, You need to tell your mum to leave him, get a make-over and find some-one who respects her. She needs to dump his ***. It sounds like he is having a mid-life crisis. So I think your mum should have one too and become a cougar. I wish you luck
It would appear your dad can not face growing old, and has some hugh problems around it , he is becoming bitter and resentful towards everyone else....but the thing I find most disturbing is...the way he is treating your mother...this is just not acceptable at all. Sadly it's only your mother who can sort this problem out between them...and believe me she must be hurt with these comments he makes...If she says she doesn't care, then she is in denial. Talk to her and see if you both can come up with some way to talk to your father about his behaviour.
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