i don't do drugs(alcohol included)and never have tried. I don't go clubbing, i'm still a virgin, i don't go out with my friends. i take them every where they want to go. i pay half the bills (not because they told me to but because i want to) i have to change my schedule to their schedule. i was ALWAYS a good Honor roll student. I went to college. they don't cook me food, the don't have to clean after me. i bend over backwards for them. and what do i get back from it:
curfew (time when i have to be home): 9pm
i have to take my mom with me when i go with my boyfriend anywhere
i'm not allowed out of the house by myself unless its to work or school
i can't hang out with my very VERY FEW friends.
NO TRUST WHAT SO EVER and i have never done anything to lose their trust.
i'm their freakin slave that gives in to their every wish.
and i my a** hole father is an alcoholic that religiously drinks every weekend.
they try to make me feel guilty when ever i do something for myself
and the worst part is THAT I'M ******* 2O!!!!!!!!!!! I legally am old enough to do anything i please! (i'm usually don't use bad language but i'm p.o) and why do i still OBEY THEM. HOLLY CRAP.
I JUST DON'T HAVE IT IN ME TO REBEL.
and why haven't i haven't moved out 2 years ago.... cus i feel guilty and kno it would hurt them. i'm going to marry the man i love and i don't care what they say or how much they tell me it hurts them. or what they say. cus i have been the most respectful, must obedient daughter any parent could have
and everyone one has told them. URGHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!鈥?br>
....somebody save me from myself..............Am I the perfect child? ( a little bit of a rant)?
Save yourself! No guarantees my dear in life that you get what you give. You have done all of these good things for YOUR benefit - whether your parents asked you to do them or not - all of them will benefit YOU - %26amp; that is self love, something your parents did not teach you but that you earned.
It is something many parents never manage to give their kids, even deserving ones. But somehow your parents, through their LACKING of many things, managed to bestow upon you, on purpose or by default. Either way, you are a good person who deserves to begin getting what you give. Your parents are already hurting or else they wouldn't be so miserable, so let them have their misery! They were miserable before you came %26amp; will be exactly the same way when you leave. Leave your guilt about it at the door, %26amp; start packing today. Really. Start packing now, give your folks a kiss at the door, %26amp; tell them thanks for everything. And start your own life without looking back. You owe them nothing anymore.Am I the perfect child? ( a little bit of a rant)?
i know you'll probabily feel guilty, but you have to think that you're 20 years old, you're not a child anymore. have you ever tried to talk to them and explain how you feel? i know it's difficult but try.
I'm sorry for what happened to you :'(
That kinda happens to me too. My parents do the same thing to me. I can't hang out with my friends without feeling guilty. While one of my brothers is barely home to help my parents anyway, but they're okay with that.
I don't think you should rebel or something like that, afterall, they're your parents. You only have to try to get your rights. I think you should move from your parents house. Visit them every week so it won't hurt them too much. Tell them you want to be independent.
Tell them you have been a good daughter all the time and never broken their trust, so why would they not trust you. Ask them politely. You have to talk about this with your mom and dad when the situation is perfect.
Good luck.
If you live with your parents, you have to follow the house rules. I went through this, too. I was 20 and lived at home going to college. I hated it but now that I'm 27, I'm so glad I followed their rules. I have a great job, great apartment, money in the bank, new car, nice boyfriend and a fun life. I can't imagine what bad choice I would have made back then. Smile and go give them a hug. They are doing what is best for you.
This can really go two different ways. Either they are very loving parents that just want the best for you and are trying to gear you in the right direction OR they are (still loving) parents that have manipulated you through guilt so that you can fill a void within them. I really don't know any of you so it's really hard to tell, but if it's the latter, it's time to release the guilt and to tell yourself that your parent's happiness is not your responsibility. In fact it's a parent's responsibility to teach their children how to be independent and how to feel good about it. Do not marry your boyfriend out of rebellion. Take baby steps. First move out and tell your parents that you appreciate everything they did for you, but it's time for you to go, and then once you're on your own and have less emotional baggage to deal with, you can choose to marry him. I only advise this because you don't want your choice to marry the boy you love to be a ';side effect'; of you rebelling, rather you want it to be a decision that centers on the feelings you have for each other. Good luck with everything!
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