Why can guys be such assholes? (Kind of a long post - basically a rant)?

For example, New Years Eve. I'd talked to my boyfriend 3 days before New Years and asked if he wanted to do something. He said yes, but in kind of an annoying way (I asked ';Do you want to do something for New Years, or do you have other plans?'; And he just said ';No';. The fact that I wanted an actual answer from him got me frustrated, but I tried to be patient and asked him which question he was answering...but he just kept being a pain about it. I called him again though and then asked him the questions separately and he stopped being a pain and said that he would like to hang out for New Years.)





Come New Years Eve, I'm just getting back from Florida at around 5 and looking forward to the fact that I can actually see him that night (the flight had been delayed, and there was a chance that my grandparents weren't going to let me and my brother fly out cause of the shitty weather in NH). So I call him, and he says that if I can get a ride to his sister's house then we can hang out. I say I'll ask my dad later to see if he can give me a ride, and that I'll call him later. I ask my dad as soon as I get home, and very nicely (which is sort of strange for me, even in these situations) if I can go over his house. He yells at me and says no (because he wanted to drink, which is fine but he had to be so ******* complicated and not tell me til 10 minutes later - note to dad's: give your reason when your kid asks ';why not';, because if you don't and she keeps asking and you just yell at her, it's not really helping the situation). So later that night, I'm upset 'cause I can't see my boyfriend who I haven't seen for a week and a half. My dad's girlfriend apparently talked to him, and she yells up to me that he'll go pick him up and he can just stay over that night.





I knew that he probably didn't want to, so I just sent him a text message to ask him and he says no. I ask why not, and he says that he doesn't really like my dad (my dad doesn't really like anybody I date, seeing how they're guys and I'm a girl and I'm his daughter - so he's just doing the dad thing, which is understandable). So I get really upset, because that's a really shitty excuse. To me, it just sounded like he didn't even want to see me. So after a half an hour of bawling my eyes out, after calming down slighty (enough so you can understand what I'm saying), I call him up and ask him about it. He says that he's sorry that he hurt my feelings, and he didn't know that New Years meant that much to me (bullshit, I told him that I really wanted to see him New Years 3 days before, and had texted him about it at least once). I let the bullshit slide, especially since he told me how shitty he felt about making me cry. Also, his sister's roommate was in tears that night too, because they had to go to the vet and put her cat down (apparently). And he couldn't leave because his dad told him he had to stay at his sister's. So we said our goodbyes yadda yadda, and then say we'll see each other tomorrow.





Tomorrow being today, I heard something that made me even more upset (sure I was happy to see him, and I was having a pretty good day so far, but I was still kind of upset when I saw that I was the only one at my house without a New Years kiss - which is why it meant so much to me, and Guys: the little things are important). So today we hung out with his friend Steve's gf, in an attempt to go and get Steve to hang out too. And then I find out, Tim went to Steve's last night. He went over his friend Steve's house and hung out with him and a bunch of other people til 4 in the morning. He says he had to go back and stay at his sister's, but I'm not completely sure of it. This got me pissed off and upset, because I had to listen to his bullshit excuses as to why he couldn't hang out with me last night and yadda yadda ******* bullshit. We're in the car driving around after Katelyn (Steve's gf) had mentioned something about last night. I just looked at him and went ';Wait, you were at STEVE'S last night?'; And he said ';Yeah for a little while, but I had to go back to Kate's (his sister).';





10 minutes later, I'm still upset, and he just looks at me and goes ';you STILL mad at me about that?'; YES YOU ASSHOLE, OBVIOUSLY YOU CAN TELL BY THE ******* LOOK ON MY FACE. ALSO THE FACT THAT I TOLD YOU NEW YEARS MEANT A LOT TO ME, BUT OHH IT'S OK YOU CAN STAY AT YOUR SISTERS IF YOU WANT - YOU DONT' SAY ******* ';OK!'; YOU GET YOUR *** OVER THERE AND SPEND TIME WITH YOUR GIRL!





******* **** head...


we've been going out for less than 3 months, he just turned 17 and I turn 16 on the 19th. **** like this shouldn't be happening already.





what is your verdict?Why can guys be such assholes? (Kind of a long post - basically a rant)?
1st girl, dont be an *** hole and post saying how you wont read it just so you can get some damn points


that **** is so ******* annoying especially when some1 is just looking for some advice





it sounds to me that he has already lost interest in, im sorry and i know that you don't want to hear that but thats what it looks like.


you should confront him about his feelings toward you and make him give you an honest answer


maybe you should reconsider this relationship if he doesnt want to make any effort with youWhy can guys be such assholes? (Kind of a long post - basically a rant)?
haha sorry im not ganna read it but i agree with you that they are jerks
I AGREE! Guys can be serious a.s.s.h.o.l.e.s!