If I knew what was going on, I'd probably feel better (warning: rant)?

I really don't understand how my ';friends'; can actually call themselves my friends? I live a couple of hours away from them all and I make an effort nearly every weekend to get there to see them and to catch up. The moment I ask them to come up for a visit ';Sorry, it's too far. I'll see you again next time you're down this way';





I feel like I'm making all this effort and recieving nothing in return. Like I listen to and help them all with their issue when they're down. The moment I have something wrong... ';Get over it!'; is always the response.





This doesn't only go for my friends, this is also towards my so called ';boyfriend'; who hasn't actually SEEN me in over 6 weeks!! He still claims that he wants to be together and that he's just got a few things to work out, yet then goes and tells me about all this stuff he's done with he's friends... things WE were meant to do, but he said he physically couldn't at the moment





I know that there is nothing wrong with me, so what's going on?If I knew what was going on, I'd probably feel better (warning: rant)?
I am not sure and can't predict your ';friends'; feelings but maybe they have no idea who they truly are in themselves. Friends are there for their friends. I would say that next time they want you to visit, say I am sorry I have plans that weekend even if you don't have something lined up, and then make sure to do something...even if that is something by yourself. It will make you feel much stronger. Friends don't tell friends to ';get over it';, they stand by your side, the listen, and they will give advice and will tell you the harsh truth in a loving way if they have to.





As for your boyfriend...what do you want from a boyfriend? Is he giving you that? Are you getting what you want from it? If not then no matter how much you care for him it isn't true love and it is time to move on. You will be much better off in the end. He has some lessons to learn.





I would say pick up the pieces from both your friends and your boyfriend, find the things YOU like to do and in those things you might just find true friends. Join a sports team, take a class, volunteer, whatever it is. Right now they EXPECT you to make the effort to see them. Make an effort for yourself and if in that they don't respond you will know that you did all you could and that there are people that are better meant to be friends with you out there.





You will get through this girl. Remember that you are important enough to be happy and smile.If I knew what was going on, I'd probably feel better (warning: rant)?
You sound like me after I finished high school.





Something really important to think about: Deep down how do you REALLY feel about your 'so called boyfriend'? Is the relationship something worth holding onto?





Friends come and go. It's a part of life.
you need new friends! they all sound like jerks
Sounds like you've got the role of the ';listener'; with all of your friends. Good for them, bad for you. You don't have to give up on them completely, but it isn't fair if you are always the one making the effort. Be there for them as much as you can on the phone, but I would cut down your visits until they can show you that you are important enough for the trip.





And your boyfriend... I can't say this with certainty, but if he was as into you as he should be, he would do whatever it took to come around. I think you need to give him his space, and if he comes around again that will show you his feelings.





It sounds to me like you need to make a few local friends who have your best interests at heart, too.