well to me like i think its kinda f'''''ed up that people think that because a guy leaves a girl that is pregnant that its his fault and that hes a total f''''''' bag and deserves to die =? like idk about this particular guy but my ex ex girlfriend was pregnant with my baby but i had already broken up with her even before she knew she was pregnant so like time went on until like she finally found out and then she told me and what not and then when other people found out everyone got on their HIGH horse and started telling me on how i was a D';';K cuz i didnt want to go back with her and stuff nut liek she had totally messed up on our relationship like she was always cheating on me like she even cheated on me wit another girl one time so like wtf not all guys that dont stay wit there babys momma are selfish pricks so like cut it wit that and yeah i tried to work it out and well guess what she cheated on me again after she had my precious son and of course im in his life im always there for him in fact im going to go pick him up in a bit sooooo quit being soooo judgemental on fathers like me cuz you dont even know half of anyones story and you already assume stuff and sorry for the rant but like ugh awwwwwwwwwww it just like it was time to explode cuz of all the girls on this stupid yahoo answers are always talking smack and dont know anything so next time be sincere and shut it cuz some of us fathers find offense ok so yeah just sorry i was just tired of all this maybe ill even put this on a ques lol =) and well if he leaves her for the wrong reasons dont stay with him cuz thats really f'''''ed up and that makes the rest of us look bad lol =) so just make sure you know his whole story before you judge him =) Sorry like i answered a question earlier but like it kinda turned into a rant lol but just read it its not...?
Well I applaud you for wanting to be an active part of your sons life. It really bothers me when people automatically judge the father harshly for not staying with the mother of his children. It's all a part of how our society stereotypes men and women. First of all I think it is terrible for people to ';stay together for the kids';. Just because two people have a child together does not mean they should run off and get married or even stay together. If they don't really love each other it gives children a terrible view of what a healthy marriage should look like. For instance my husband thought it was completely normal for his parents to sleep in different rooms until he was 13, a couple of years after they got divorced. Though a family is usually the idea it's much better for a child to see their parents happy and apart then together and fighting all the time or constantly cheating on each other. So when people look down on a man for not staying with the mother of his child it really upsets me. If he doesn't want to be with her no matter what the reason it's not going to be a good example for their child. Secondly, I hate when people assume that when a man leaves it is just him running from responsibility and never think about the faults of the mother. I know fathers who do run from their responsibilities by not visiting their child or paying child support but honestly I know more who are very active in their child's life and never miss a payment. Unfortunately our society tends to assume the father has selfish or bad motives when leaving the mother of his child, This is one instance where men definitely get the short end of the stick. I agree that people shouldn't be so quick to judge relationships that they know nothing about. Assuming that men are bad people or at fault for not staying with the mother of their children when you know nothing of the situation is sexist.
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