A close friend of mine and my BF seems really close? this is a rant, read if you like, i'd like if you answer?

me and my boyfriend used to be really sweet, and then a girl came into our lives. she soon became a very close friend of mine, and she always tells me her problems and stuff like that, we are very close. but i also know at the same time that she and my boyfriend are very close too. she would tell me that my boyfriend told her this and that over the phone, or my boyfriend would tell me stuff like they just hung out or she's going thru this n that. it really hurts sometimes, or am i just too clingy? i sometimes go on trips and he does too. recently, i went on 2. when i came back on the first one a month after not being with him, he confessed to me that he started to have feelings for her, but now that i'm back, i'm still his number one and he loves me so much. and then then he went on a trip a few months after that, before he came back, i had to go on one too. so he came back earlier than i did. and when i came back, my boyfriend told me my friend was in a bad mood and being very mean to him. i said to him, is she always like that now? and he said no, she just got moody. i know they've been hanging out again, and she's in a bad mood because i came back and now my boyfriend would be with me more. She always leaves when i come when my boyfriend and her are hanging out. idk, she cant stand us being together? and this time, my boyfriend went after her when she left instead of staying with me who he hasnt seen in a while. we barely even talked. my boyfriend knows she gets jeolous when me and him are together, and he told me that. i said to him, but we barely talked! i just came back! i got so pissed, but all my boyfriend could think of doing was go after her and talk to her/comfort her, he didnt ask me anything. when i went after them, because i really was worried my friend didnt like me anymore and wanted to sort the problem out, she left again. so i just left. my boyfriend continued to be with her. when i asked her this she said no that's not true, and she's very happy that im back. i know that isnt true. oh btw, she has her own boyfriend. my boyfriend told me that when they are hanging out and her boyfriend comes, she completely ignores him and treat him like crap, and when we are together, he didnt even treat her like crap. but he says they are fine when its just them. i know my boyfriend knows i really do mind when he chooses her instead of me, or calling her more instead of me, and hanging out wiht her. i dont know anymore..what should i do? i know my boyfriend only likes her as a friend now but it still bothers me. how come he treats her so differently? he told me once that when he had problems, i was the only one there for him, he only loves me n no one else. but this is really bothering me, what should i do?A close friend of mine and my BF seems really close? this is a rant, read if you like, i'd like if you answer?
If it's really bothering you, then you should make it clear to him. Personally, it seems like a lost cause because I have a feeling there's more going on here than you think.A close friend of mine and my BF seems really close? this is a rant, read if you like, i'd like if you answer?
punch that whore of a Friend in the mouth first then stop going on trips and spend quality time together and do stuff like go to restraunts and movies basically let him know you love him as much as he loves u
haha i just want the 2 points.. im not going to read all that
you should get really really fat yea yea
you seem smart..just be confident and be urself
um..talk to some of your real friends about this..not to a bunch of strangers...
yeah my girlfriend gets jealous when i try to comfort my lady friend,but its not even like that
Confront your friend about it, not asking her if she's happy your back, but if she's happy that you %26amp; your boyfriend are together. Ask her if she likes him, %26amp; she can tell you honestly %26amp; don't get mad at her, be sure to tell her that, too. This was really long, I'm really surprised I actually read it. x)


I'm not really sure what to tell you.... If he loves you like he says he does, then ask him why he does all these things for her and doesn't seem to pay as much attention to you, %26amp; why you two don't talk anymore. Be specific to your question, make sure it's the right ones before you ask, or they could easily say one thing that isn't what you mean but make it seem that way. Be sure to not let them avoid the question, like if you asked him if he liked her more %26amp; he were to say ';You know I love you and nobody else'; he's avoiding the question by not answering if he liked her more.


I really hope I help :) It seems like a hard situation /:


Try to get to be super close with your friend again, closer than your boyfriend %26amp; hangout with just you %26amp; her without him there, see if anything happens %26amp; if she denies your invitations %26amp; everything then she's totally just into your boyfriend %26amp; you'll need to confront him about it. I'd say tell her to back off of your boyfriend %26amp; tell your boyfriend to get some new, GUY friends if it happens. Your not controling his life, your just not gonna let some girl get in the way of your relationship :)
well to cut it short my girlfriend now wife was in the same situation.she had a best friend which was a guy she hung out with him all the time but when he got with his girlfriend things changed.his girlfriend was jealous and didnt want my wife to hang out with him anymore,so my wife lost a close friend and never went back.now he is miserable,and i believe he married her and then got a divorce all because she was jealous.so all i can say is if you love him believe in him and give him his space but always ask as if you want too know about the other girl dont assume something is going on.thx hope too help and good luck





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I think you should drop your boyfriend straight up. Him and your friend obvoiusly have a thing going on for eachother, and he clearly isn't doing what he should be doing in your relationship. You should get him to be more honest with you because from your story, it sounds like he's lying. It sounds like he just doesn't wanna upset you, but in reality I think he has more feelings for her than for you (no offence, i'm just giving my honest opinion).
Believe me, you're not his ';number one'; anything. Guy's are kind of jerks when it comes to sh*t like that... If he can walk out on you after being away from you, just to comfort her, then he's lying to you.





You should probably do your best to get out of that relationship before this gets any more screwed up. It seems like, at this point, staying will just cause you more problems. If he comes running back to you or he still wants to be with you and turns down the chance at being with this girl, go ahead and accept him back, but don't get your hopes up.





Guys suck =(


I'm sorry you're stuck with all this and I hope someone's able to help you out.
hmmmm, well i reckon you should ditch your friend she sounds like a ******. shes definetly not a true friend an shes trying to steal him away from you. and it worked at one stage! just like u said. i wouldnt trust either of him. I reckon dump your bf an ditch the girl


you shouldnt have to put up with either of them
Ouch :/





I'm sorry for some of the answers you're getting. But I really think the solution is obvious here. You need to salvage at least some of your dignity, %26amp; get rid of your boyfriend. You say he likes her ';as a friend now';, but what gives you the evidence to make that assumption? Everything he's expressed to you so far has proven otherwise. The fact that SHE is now in a relationship does not necessarily mean that HIS feelings for her have gone away.





I really think you should give your boyfriend the boot, but if you REALLY want to keep him...you're going to have to give him an ultimatum. Cut off contact with your friend (she doesn't really sound like she's a true friend to you, to be honest) or lose you as a girlfriend. If he chooses her...well, then you know where his loyalties lie.





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OMG!!!!!!!! this is the EXACT same thing tht hapened to me my bestie and my bf...but we broke up then my bff is like i think i like him!! i m like u told me he was a horrible guy and tht he said alll this stuff bout me!! ugh i kno how pissed u must be!!








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Well, first off, if you know its a rant, you shouldn't be posting it here.





But to the answer, I've been in the role of the girl you're describing, though the timeline was different- eventually, I became my best friend's wife's best friend, and he and I became less close as a result. But, I know that my relationship with her was completely platonic, and that I helped them work through a lot of their marital issues, whether he knew about it or not; since most of the time he was too proud to ask my advice, I would pass it on through her, when she told me she didn't know what to tell him.





My point is that this girl may be a valuable friend to your boyfriend. Maybe not. Maybe she's just a bizarre dysfunctional individual, but you probably don't know the whole story either way. Not really sure that talking to the man will even resolve anything, because if he's already been honest with you, then nothing he can say will reassure you; and, if he's been lying to you, he'll just keep on.





You need to simply make a decision, as to whether you are comfortable with him having a close female friend besides you. If not, then it's ultimatum time, just tell him that he has to choose between you, and be prepared for the heartbreak if he chooses her.